Vows are an important tradition in weddings, but it can be tough to express what you want in the way want it. Having a difficult time with your vows? Do you need help with them? That’s why we’re here.
Vows do not have to be intimidating. Below are some good tips on the best content for writing your vows. Think about these questions/topics, pick which ones interest you the most and write a response about them. Leave it, and later on go back to it and edit, so you can find a good flow. Here we go:
1) Think of what you would like to say to her more than anything else, and write it down. It does not have to be fancy or poetic or rhyme, just write down what is in your heart and mind.
a. Think of why you love her/him… write it down.
b. Think of what you love about her/him… write it down.
c. If you could tell her/him why she/he stole your heart, what would you say? Guess what you do now? Write it down.
d. If you could express how long you will love her/him, how would you put it in words?
e. When you think of all of the things that break up couples, what would you tell her/him about your love for her/him? Will it last? Why?
2) Ask yourself the following questions:
a. What does marriage mean to us?
b. Why are we marrying?
c. What promises are most meaningful, and which ones are essential that we keep?
3) Write a letter to your fiancé telling them why you love them. Do not make this short and sweet. Instead, elaborate, go in-depth, and be creative.
4) Write 2-3 of your favorite times together – the times when you laughed so hard you cried, or when she/he was there for you, or an inside joke, or something that happened long ago that you haven’t thought about it in a long time.
To further help you out, most traditional vows go something like this:
a. “In the name of God, I, Name take you, Name to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.”
Or if you are going along those lines, but want something more unique to the two of you, it might sound like…
b. “From this moment, I, Name, take you, Name, as my best friend for life. I pledge to honor, encourage, and support you through our walk together. When our way becomes difficult, I promise to stand by you and uplift you, so that through our union we can accomplish more than we could alone. I promise to work at our love and always make you a priority in my life. With every beat of my heart, I will love you. This is my solemn vow.”
Or, you can forget the “traditional” completely and just say two or three sentences that explain why you love them and why you commit your heart to them.
It is about you two, and the celebration of your love and care for each other. Just remember that, and you will find the words to say what you want.